Tuesday, September 11, 2007

adoption-a-holic

Well, in the past 4 days, I have been an adoption-a-holic! I have been fingerprinted. I had a background, criminal record check yesterday. I have gathered info about my family's medical history. Tomorrow I am having a physical at the doctor's office. I have gathered all the financial information that I knew and didn't know that we had. I have scheduled meetings and appointments for asap. I have filled out paper after paper after paper. I am not usually this available, from work, and other stuff, but for some reason the past few days, I have been. All I can say at this point is that after all this paperwork and all these tasks I have completed, there is still one that is the most daunting for me..... the self-study. I will speak on it after I finally finish all 10 pages of essay style questions and answers.

Last night, we went to a transracial play group. For those of you who are wondering what in the heck that is....don't feel bad, I thought the same thing. It was actually pretty neat. Parents who have adopted transracially (meaning that the parents are one race and the child is another) come with their adopted children and biological children and they all play together while the parents and other couples who are in the process of adopting interact with the children and with other parents. There was a girl named Heather there who gave testimony of her experience growing up being biracial and being adopted into a white family. I loved her honesty so much. She did not make it sound all pretty and perfect. She gave a very real picture of what her life was like, what she wishes could have been different and advice she gives all parents who adopt transracially. A major theme of her talking was that she encourages all adoptive parents to educate their children about who they are and where they come from, instead of trying to hide it or pretend like they aren't different.

There was one little boy there named Carter who Eric and I affectionately renamed 'the mac daddy' of the group. He was around 4 or so. He would go around to all the other little girls and try to flirt with them and then run away as if he was trying to act like he didn't care if they noticed him or not. It was so cute! I'd say the night in general, if nothing else, really warmed my heart to see these kids flourishing and growing up in an atmosphere that they probably wouldn't have had a chance at if their parents had not adopted them. I also just looked at them and thought about how each one of them will most likely have the opportunity to come to know Christ personally because of their parents, homes, churches and surroundings. Isn't that so glorifying to God??? I am so excited to be an adoptive mom. I cannot wait to meet my sweet child!

6 comments:

The Stottmans said...

Hey guys!
Wow, It was so awesome to read your experiences in this blog. I'm excited to be able to share this journey with you both... thanks for sharing it. Josh and I will continue to pray for you throughout this amazing journey. Love you,
Lori

tim said...

i think it is awesome what you and eric are doing! i am praying for you and eric to trust in the lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding but in all your ways acknowledge him and he shall direct your path. love you both and know that i am praying for ya'll daily!
tim

Karen said...

so this is what you have been up to!!! I had an idea that this was where you guys were headed...but it sure sounds sweet hearing it straight from you and Eric. I am dilligently praying for you both and the child that God already has chosen for you and Eric!

KLS said...

mandy and eric.. i'm so happy that you are sharing your heart with us like this. you're going to be a mom.. it seems like yesterday that we were playing house.. where did the time go? i'm praying for both. i can't wait to meet your sweet baby either! love you!
katie

courtney said...

I love love love that you all are doing this!!! Mandy, your blogging is great!! I am so impressed how eloquently you are getting your message across. You know we can't wait to see your baby, or babies??? I would love for yall to have twins..how fun!!
we love yall very much
court and trev

Love Cup said...

Hi Man and Eric,

Just wanted to let you know how excited i am to walk thru this process with you guy... what an incredible experience and i can't wait to see how the Lord deepens your faith. he will never let go of you through the calm and through the storm in every high and every low he will never let go of us. Praise Him for that truth!!! love you guys! and praying for yall

"He upholds the cause of the oppressed...He sustains the fatherless and the widow" -psalm 146:7&9