Thursday, June 26, 2008

Post placement visit #2

We had our second post placement visit this week with Bethany. The first one was when Cohen was only a few days old. Basically, Carolyn comes out and checks in with us. We talk about what Cohen is doing, how he sleeps and eats, what his disposition and personality is like and how he is changing. I am not sure what Carolyn's part of it is, but it always seems to go smoothly and feels easy, and we get no negative feedback, so I guess no news is good news! Cohen and I stopped by the Bethany office in Nashville last week to take our monthly pictures and letter/update for "E", should she decide to see them. I wonder how she is doing. I hear from the birthparent counselor who has a relationship with her that she is okay. We have requested a picture of her and of Cohen's half brother and sister so that he can have that as he gets older. Hopefully she will be okay with that. I think that would be special for him. I must confess something...I am really not that great about remembering to pray for E as far as her relationship with our family goes, and I really don't know why I forget. I really hope that she decides one day to know him. I know that the day will come when Cohen is so aware and will want to know her and about his situation. I would want to know. Eric and I were talking just last night about how much we hurt already for him and want to stop any pain that may come his way. It is an indescribable feeling. However, we know that we can't. It is a real situation, with real circumstances that just are painful and no doubt, will be difficult for Cohen to understand. He may not ever understand and that fact, again, is just reality in this world and a reality that I need to be praying for now. If any of yall pray for Cohen and Eric and I, please remember this important aspect of our lives. I am thankful though, that we can rest in knowing that God is in control. He has orchestrated this all from the beginning. He knows what is best for Cohen. I believe in the same way that He has cared for Cohen so far, he will in this situation, too. I don't know what is best, only God does and I choose His plans over mine!!! All this rambling on and I really just wanted to say that my heart for "E" continues to grow, my heart for Cohen is overwhelmingly huge and this whole chapter of my life is just truly been made amazing by the work and hand of God in my life. Praise God for Cohen!!!!

We are leaving for vacation in the morning and we are so pumped, its not even funny! We'll have great pics, no doubt, for the blog with the new camera when we return and I'm sure i'll be anxious to share them!!! I am hoping to get some good reading time in and just some quality time and relaxation before we get ready to start back up with Eric back to work pretty shortly after we get back.

Some important court dates coming up:
  • Tuesday, July 8th will be the "appearance hearing" for the legal father. We don't expect to hear anything from anyone on that as far as the actual legal father goes, but still.... pray for that day that there will be no legal activity going on!
  • Tuesday, July 15th will be the termination of the legal father's rights day. Please pray that we will have peace through this. Pray for peace for E especially.

5 comments:

alicia said...

have you read the book Twenty things adoptive kids wish their adoptive parents knew? because DH and I are adopting I picked this one up and loved it. Just from this post I love to hear how you talk about his future and to me it so aligns with this book and many I am sure! I will deifinatly be prying for you guys, for E and for the birth father, that nothing comes up on those dates! have a great vacation!

iamtheclay2003 said...

hi---linked to your site through alicias. (who is amazing by the way! lol) anyway only scanned through a little, but LOVE reading about your experience. You and DH are adorable, but no offense, your son takes the cake! lol he's precious and i'm so happy for you. Domestic infant adoption? thats what my DH and i are looking into right now! wish us luck, and GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR GROWING FAMILY!

Laura

iamtheclay2003 said...

hi---linked to your site through alicias. (who is amazing by the way! lol) anyway only scanned through a little, but LOVE reading about your experience. You and DH are adorable, but no offense, your son takes the cake! lol he's precious and i'm so happy for you. Domestic infant adoption? thats what my DH and i are looking into right now! wish us luck, and GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR GROWING FAMILY!

Laura

Rebekah said...

Just now catching your journey--looks like you're living the best part NOW! Your pictures are beautiful I scrawled through all of them! :) Hubby and I are about a month from being on the official adopting waiting list. We will also be a trans-racial family. I love finding new friends that are able to relate and share in my journey. Can't wait to read more about yours!!

Dave said...

Just found your blog and HAD to drop you a line. We useed to live in Murfreesboro (attended Northside Baptist) and we adopted an AA baby through Bethany. He's just about 5 months, so they around the same age. Just looking at your beautiful photos reminded me of Josiah! I'm catching up on your journey, so I'm sure you'll heaqr from me again!

"He upholds the cause of the oppressed...He sustains the fatherless and the widow" -psalm 146:7&9